Guilt vs. Shame
Shame tells us we are a bad person beyond saving. Shame often motivates more bad behavior. The child looks in the mirror and sees only mistakes. Guilt tells us we have done something wrong, but allows us to see God’s mercy and forgiveness.
Brene’ Brown, in her book Daring Greatly, discusses the idea of wholeheartedness. Learners often look for ways to be “enough.” The opposite of not enough can never be enough. Who defines what “enough” looks like? Instead she suggests that rather than trying to be enough for ourselves and others, we live wholeheartedly–giving our best in each situation. Adora is a safe place to make mistakes and learn from those mistakes—to live wholeheartedly.